A new study shows that people with happy and active spouses have longer marriages and may also live longer!
We’ve all been hearing (and preaching) about the benefits of a ‘happy’ mindset for years now. Although it is hard to say exactly what ‘happy’ is, we can make a few general observations. Happy people tend to be busy, they are often healthier than people with less life-satisfaction, and because they are nice to be around, they are attractive, too. So, it’s no big stretch to understand that having a happy spouse would make a marriage last longer, and, in fact, several scientific studies have backed this up. Now, a new study shows a connection between happier spouses and a longer life.
This study was done by Olga Stavrova, a researcher at Tilburg University in the Netherlands and published in Psychological Science in April 2019. She followed 4,400 couples over the age of 50 in the US for 8 years. These couples completed regular surveys with questions about an array of factors suspected of having impacts upon longevity and health, including questions about life-satisfaction, physical activity, and health status.
What Stavrova learned was that participants with a happy spouse (higher life-satisfaction) were less likely to pass away during that eight years than participants with a less happy partner, or someone with lower life-satisfaction. This held true regardless of the participants’ race, religion, income or educational level, etc. So being with someone happy helps us live longer, no matter what part of the country we come from or how much money we have!
But there was an interesting twist – that high life-satisfaction in those happy spouses was strongly linked to a higher level of activity in the participant. In other words, the thing about that happy spouse is that they keep you busy, which in turn keeps you healthier which makes you live longer and better. As Stavrova said, “If your partner is depressed and wants to spend the evening eating chips in front of the TV — that’s how your evening will probably end up looking, as well.”
So, how is this relevant for a DIVA still searching for her perfect partner? It gives you another reason to find a happy person for your mate. And how do you go about finding a happy mate? I think a surefire way to find a happy person is to BE a happy person which will help you both have a long and fulfilling life.
This may sound simplistic, I get it. But it isn’t that complicated. Besides the obvious benefits of cultivating a happy mindset, one happy person will be drawn to another happy person. So if you are hoping to find love with a happy person, cultivate being a happy, strong person yourself.
I hear some of you asking, “And just how am I supposed to do that?”
It starts with a gratitude mindset. Walk in gratitude for your blessings, whatever they are. Allow love and abundance into your life and then share it with others. Engage in your community or a hobby, spend time with family. Get in touch with your spiritual side. Finding this mindset is a process and doesn’t happen overnight if you aren’t disposed thinking that way ordinarily. But as you work your way to a state of high life-satisfaction, you will find that you are less anxious, more productive and healthier. As you bloom in this mindset of happiness and service, you will encounter other people with the same attitude, including some great guys and potential happy partners.
Finding love when you are in a good place in your life, with a person who is also happy, is a great foundation for a win-win situation and a long, healthy, and happy life. As you walk through life together, stay active, keep one another engaged and you are more likely to enjoy each other for many years to come.
[Association for Psychological Science. (2019, April 23). People with happy spouses may live longer. ScienceDaily. Retrieved June 10, 2019, from www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2019/04/190423133434.htm]